Today I want to talk about something near and dear to me, and that is support.
As black women, we need to instill into ourselves that we are worthy of support. We were never meant to do this journey of life alone. All too often, we are out there doing it on our own when we should be surrounding ourselves with people that support us.
You can be strong and powerful and still allow yourself to receive support.
I want us to redefine what it means to be strong. Strength means:
Knowing when you need help.
Being able to allow yourself to sit down, to fall and tumble and know that it’s okay.
Being able to feel the feelings that we have and get help and support doing it.
As Black women, we know how to support the heck out of everybody else, but we fall short of ourselves. We fail to let people in to help support ourselves. When we allow people we love to help support us, we can let go of things that don’t matter and focus on the things that do.
What are some things that you can get support on in your life to make your life easier?
No matter if you have money or not there are ways you can find support around you. All you need to do is think outside of the box.
Whether it’s helping around the house, helping with the kids, helping with work, help with whatever it is you need support with, just know that you deserve to have some help.
You are worthy of getting help and support.
Here’s the tough part, though...to receive support, you need to ask for it.
We’ve been conditioned to not ask. We freely give help and support to other people but when it comes to ourselves, we don’t want to ask. It’s time to let that go and ask for what we need.
There will be times when someone says no and that’s ok. You can ask the next person. When we start asking, it gives people permission to the people in our lives to show up in bigger and better ways for us and we deserve that. We deserve to know the people who want to show up for us and we deserve to know who is in our lives that don’t. Yes, the thought of being let down is scary but you might be surprised by who is willing to help show up for you.
I encourage you to ask. Ask for help and get that level of support.
There are all sorts of difficult, challenging things that each of us deals with and we deserve to get help with that.
Whether it’s getting help from our family and friends, or a stranger like a therapist or coach. Many of us have been brought up to believe there is a stigma around receiving help from a therapist or professional life coach but there is no shame in it at all. Utilizing that avenue of support can often be more effective in guiding you to the support you need and supporting you emotionally through your journey.
We need to feel free to continue to reach out for support, to keep healing and coming back a whole full person. We need emotional support to continue to grow and be happy and joyful in life.
There is so much we do to fill out our day. How can we experience the joy in life when we are so busy doing all these things? Let’s do the work we need to do to get some of those tasks and responsibilities off our plates.
I am a huge fan of self-care. I talk about it all the time on my YouTube channel, that’s how critical I feel it is. No one, other than yourself, will truly be able to fully love and give support on every single level.
When I say you, I mean the physical you, the soul essence, spirit-filled you. You’ve got to go within for that, whether you’re going within and tapping into the spirit and God for whatever energy. However, you define that, that is so critical.
You need to love and support yourself daily. Even if you showed up at your worst that day, maybe that was your best, and love yourself through that.
Love yourself through the ugly.
Love yourself through the bad.
Love yourself through the good.
The more you show up, love, and support yourself, the easier life will get, and the more you’ll be able to welcome and bring great things into your life.
Find the strength in asking for help and receiving support.
Take time to find ways to support your emotional, mental, and physical health.
Finally, don’t forget to support yourself.
In the end, allowing yourself to find support is one of the most important things you can ever do. If you need help, or more advice feel free to reach out to me.
Come join my Facebook Group, The Her Evolution, where we are supporting and loving one another in such a big way.
Sending you big love. Take care!