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Strife Helps You Define Who You Are

“Strife helps you define who you are and what you want.” – Abraham Hicks

Think about that quote.

We’ve all been taught what trauma, turmoil, and failure means. We’re brought up to fear those things, and to try to avoid them at all costs.

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What do you say to yourself when you go through strife?

When we are in a difficult situation, we often internalize the negativity and think, “What did I do wrong? Why can’t I ever get this right? What is wrong with me?”

These thoughts will inevitably lead to more negativity like, “What I want must not be meant for me. I should give up. I’m not worthy of having what I want. Something is wrong with me.”

But really those “negative” moments are a piece of our journey and can help guide us in the right direction if we let them.

Strife helps us gain clarity as to who we are, what we want out of life, and where we want to go.

Embrace the Strife

Instead of labeling those moments as negative and fearing them, we should embrace strife in such a way that when difficult situations come into our lives, we can use them to better ourselves and our situation.

We should instead ask ourselves:

  • Is this a moment to find clarity?

  • Do I really want this?

Think of these moments as a learning opportunity. Look at it as an opportunity to see what you are good at, to clarify what you want to do and what you don’t want to. Whenever something negative has happened to me my first instinct is to think, “What am I doing wrong? Or, "What about this is not right?"

Instead of stressing over a negative situation, we need to stop and process it. Maybe there is something we need to shift in our wants or in our direction.

We are meant to pivot in our journey and not let the negatives pull us under.

Turning a Negative into a Positive

Taking a negative and turning it into something that works for you is such a powerful shift. It is a great opportunity for all of us to have greater clarity and ease as we go through strife. Those bumps on the road are a necessary piece in our journey.

We’ve got to learn to embrace the bumps and to see them as opportunities.

When we take a negative and see it as a positive, we reframe it in a whole different way.

By doing that we see that this was meant to be, that it is a part of what is going to get you where you want to go.

It allows us to reevaluate what we want out of our life and where we want it to take us.

Maybe we experience strife because we haven’t truly decided where we want to go in life. When we realize what we don’t want we can learn what truly matters to us.

Relish those negative moments, those moments of strife because it is in those moments that we learn who we are, what we are made of, and what we want our life to look like.

Sending big love!

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